Doodlebugs

Good evening all! Yesterday, I spent the day with my friend Doodlebug. As you all know, Doodlebug and Movie Buff are having SERIOUS issues at the moment. So, I took off work yesterday so she would not have to be by herself. When I got to her house, she asked me if we could just drive, so of course we got in the car and drove. We went to a coffee shop on Westheimer called Brazil and sat and had coffee and just talked. She made the comment that she just wants to curl up in a little ball and stay there forever, that's when it hit me...We are all like doodlebugs. You know how when you go to pick up a doodlebug they curl up, then when you put them back down and leave them alone for a moment they stretch out and go about their business. It's hard for me to see my friend in so much pain. I would really like to kick Movie Buff for putting his family through all of this. I often wonder...Why do men suck? Can anyone answer that question. Why is it so easy for men to just pick up and leave? I know that all men aren't like this, but there sure are a lot that do. So kiddos, when life has got you down just remember you can curl up in a little ball, but eventually you have to stretch out and face the world and go about your business.

Until next time...

Single Girl

P.S. Please keep Doodlebug and her little Doodles in your thoughts, mental hugs always work for me! : )

Name change

Per the request of Curly Sue, I am changing her name to Doodlebug. Don't ask, it's our thing.

Until next time...

Single Girl

"Forever"

On Friday night, Escort and I went to our Alma Mater to go to a fund raiser for the drill team I was on in High School. When I tell people that I am still involved with this organization, I often get strange looks. People ask why, and the best answer I can give is...that organization helped mold me into the woman I have become. Without that organization, I would have never met Hoochie or Escort or the Director that i am still close friends with. I have not missed a Spring Show since 1991. (That was my freshman year.) Because of that high school drill team, I have been able to experience things that I would never have been able to do. I have performed at the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade, The Florida Citrus Bowl, Rockets games, I danced on the football field at the Astrodome! Because of that little drill team I was on, I have confidence, leadership abilites, and lifelong friends. My ex did not understand why I felt the need to go to all of the fundraisers and Spring Shows, he would always tell me to grow up...I couldn't get him to understand that I wasn't living in the past, I was showing support for an organization that helps young ladies grow to be successful women. Anyway, we went to the Dinner and a Dance, and it was pretty good. The team prop was AWESOME! So after that, I told Escort I would take him to dinner and of course he picks Fudrucker's. So what is a Single Girl who is on a diet to do...I ordered a hamburger and french fries. And let me tell you, it was probably the best hamburger and french fries I have ever put in my mouth. I have not had a hamburger in SOOOOOOO long! So when I weigh in next week, I will probably have put some lbs back on. But that hamburger was so worth it!

I have two new names to add to my collection of expanding code names...

Curly Sue and her husband Movie Buff.

Curly Sue and I have been friends for about 12 years. We actually hated each other at one point, then one night she and I and several mutual friends hung out and we became close friends. I was the maid of honor at her wedding I went to the hospital when I found out she was in labor with her first child, she and I have a friendship a lot like Slut Puppy and I have. We can go months without speaking, and when we call each other we just pick up where we left off. Curly Sue and I started hanging out right around the time she started dating Movie Buff, so I consider him a friend as well. I will go so far as to say, I always wanted a relationship like theirs. They were not only a couple, but best friends. Curly Sue called me Friday, and as soon as she "Hey what are you doing?" I could tell something was wrong. She told me she and Movie Buff were having problems and needed to get together Saturday evening to talk. This was very traumatic for me. I always thought that if there was any two people that were in it for the long haul it would be them. And, when you are a person like me that has issues with the word "forever" this kind of thing just hammers home that "forever" is not possible anymore. We went for coffee Saturday night and talked for about an hour. I will not discuss the details of her personal life, but I will say she and I have a lot of the same issues in relationships. So, after coffee we decided to meet up with Escort and some of his friends that she and I both knew from school and we ended up having a really good time. I didn't realize how much I missed hanging out with Curly Sue, so we decided that at least once a month we are going to get together for coffee or shopping or something. Our visit on Saturday night made me realize being single is not rough, life in general is rough. But, as long as I have friends like Curly Sue, Hoochie, Slut Puppy, Big Daddy and Mrs. Big Daddy the rough patches seem to be cushioned just a little bit.

Until next time...

Single Girl

Random Thoughts

Well, I did not go to WW tonight. I had to go to Office Depot after work, so I left a little early and I got to the place where we have our meetings way before time and I did not feel like go back over there. So, no weight update this week.

I've got to say, I feel like a kid in a candy store looking on Yahoo Personals. There are so many men, and they come in all different flavors. Some are tall, some are short, some are chunky (being a person "of size" I don't EVER use the F word.) some are thin, you get the point. It's really weird, normally in a bar setting I'm so afraid of rejection I will not go and just talk to people. But, when you're just emailing people it's almost like it doesn't matter. I guess it's because you don't have to take that long walk of shame back to the table after some guy has just said no to your invitation to dance. If I email someone and they don't email me back, I'm like "Oh well, let me see who else is on here." So, I think this will be a good experience for me. It's hard being single when all your friends are married or in relationships or have children. When you want to go out, they can't or don't want to, it gets lonely being single.

On another note, I have a questions...

Why is that when you go in public with a guy that you have told you don't want to be in a relationship with feels the need to keep one hand on you at all times. It's almost like they are dogs marking their territory. I CAN'T STAND THAT! Like they're making a point to let all of the other men know that you are their property. Even when I was in a serious relationship, I didn't like that. Men are dumb! And you know what else irritates me...Needy people.

"Did you notice that I held the door open for you?"
"Did you see how fast I pulled the lighter out to light your cigarette?"

And my favorites are when people want praise for things your SUPPOSED to do...

"My pinky finger hurt today and I went to work anyway, aren't you proud of me?"

YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO GO TO WORK!

Sometimes I think our generation is really screwed up. It seems like a lot of people, men and women, that are Generation X'ers need praise for everything. For example, I worked with a girl that actually said in a meeting that it would be nice for salespeople to say "Thank you" when she ordered product for their customers. The thing was, she was in purchasing...my feelings are, your "Thank you" is your paycheck. Now, don't get me wrong...if you go above and beyond your job description, then yes you should get a thank you, atta girl, great job, or something. My grandparents helped raise me and they were from the Depression Era, we have never been through anything like what they went through and maybe they are the reason I feel the way I do. It could also be because I was raised by a single mother that worked in an all male industry. I learned very young that when you work hard you can accomplish anything. You have no idea how glad I am they made me realize that you have to work for everything you get. Please don't think I'm clumping all of the X'ers in one group, because I'm not, but it just seems like a lot of the X'ers expect more than what they give. Sorry if I've offended anyone, I don't know what got me on that tangent I guess I just had to get all of that off my chest. Thanks for reading my rants!

Until next time...

Single Girl

The first one is out of the way...

Well, as you all know...I had my first date from the personals. He seems to be a very nice man, but there was NO connection! It was very awkward. I was sitting there talking and he was looking at me, I mean he would add things here and there, but that was it. Well, I guess at least I got the first one out of the way. I forgot how weird it was sitting across the table from a complete stranger. You have your stories that are 1st date appropriate and they have theirs. It all seems very forced. I don't know if he is just shy or nervous or what, but the conversation was so mundane I would hate to bore you with the details. And the scary part is...what if he thought it went well? I have to be around people that make me laugh, and BMW did not even come close. I mean seriously, I have gone out with guys that people would wonder what I was thinking, but they all had one thing in common...they all made me laugh. I did do the appropriate, southern thing and sent an email thanking him for dinner.

Anyway, I have been emailing back and forth with one guy. His emails actually make me laugh out loud. He is suppoed to call me sometime this week. So, lets all hope he's as funny talking as he is typing.

Until next time...

Single Girl

It's official

Well people, I will be having my very first personals date on Tuesday night. We shall call him BMW because that's the kind of motorcycle he has. I know, it's not very imaginative but it's my blog so blah! ;)

We are going to an italian restaurant very near my house. So, I will tell y'all all about it when I get home. Wish me luck!

Single Girl

The weekend in review

Good morning! Well, it's 9am Sunday morning and I thought I would do a little recap of the weekend so far.

Before I get started I have a couple of names to add to my "code names"

Big Daddy - My boss from my previous job
Mrs. Big Daddy - Big Daddy's wife

So, Friday after work I went to the home of the Big Daddy's. I was just going to drop some stuff off and had said that I WAS NOT GOING TO DRINK. But, Big Daddy said that a couple that we worked with were coming over and they were all going out to have a couple of drinks and that's all it took my friends...I was going out! Now everyone knows a couple of drinks IS NEVER just a couple of drinks. We got back to Casa de Big Daddy at 2:30a. Ok, I have to tell you, I get up at 4a during the week, so Friday night I was up almost 24 hours. When we were at the last bar, I finally pushed my beer aside and said "I can't drink ANYMORE." Now, as you all know, I am 30 years old. My body tends to punish me after an evening like that. Why is it when you are in your early 20's you can stay out all night and go to work the next day and not have any problems. I mean seriously, when I was 22-24 I could go out, drink heavily, and shake my ass all night long and go to work the next day, now I'm like "just let me sleep and hook some gatorade up to through an IV drip!" Sorry, I'm rambling...Anyway, so I woke up around 10a on Saturday at Big Daddy's, got my stuff together went home and went back to bed and slept until 3p. So Saturday was pretty much gone. But, I had my sort of date with Dallas to get ready for.

So, Dallas picks me up at 6:30p, and when I get to the car he has a single pink rose for me, it was very sweet. I asked him where we were going and he said..."To the Melting Pot." I LOVE THE MELTING POT! If you have never been, you have to go, it's fondue. I went to the one in Scottsdale, AZ but had not been to the one here in Houston. We had a really good time. Since I don't cook, he pretty much watched the meat going in the fondue pot, luckily he knows when chicken is done. Anyway, if you don't want a full meal of fondue at least go and have dessert! OH MY GOD! We had S'mores chocolate. It was SO not WW approved, but I don't care. If you haven't been...go! So after fondue, we went to The Stag Head. Since I had drank my face off the night before, I really wasn't in the mood for drinks, but he had put a lot of thought into all this and we had met a couple that we have been friends with forever, so I had three beers and around 12:30a I told him I was ready to go. All in all we had a good time, I don't think I could ever be romantic with Dallas, but we do have fun when we hang out.

I am calling a gentleman from the personals tonight at 7p. We have been emailing back and forth for the past couple of days, I think we might go to dinner sometime this week. So, wish me luck and pray that he's not a serial rapist and killer!

Until next time...

Single Girl

Kudos to Hoochie

I would like to give a big THANK YOU to hoochie. I have to say, I do like the layout! I am so glad you are so technologically advanced! I love ya!

Anyway, welcome to my new page! I think I'm going to like it here.

So, I went to WW tonight and I lost another 2lbs. So do you know what that means....


I HAVE LOST A TOTAL OF 15.8 LBS!

So that means I am officially 4.2lbs from 20!!!!!!!! Woo Woo me!

Also, since I posted a picture on the personals, I have had like 40 guys look at my profile in a day and a half. I am actually emailing back and forth with one of them and he lives in the same area I do. So, we shall see what happens.

I have a sort of date on Saturday night with Dallas, I spoke with him last night and apparently he has the whole night planned and its some sort of big surprise. It's very sweet, but I'm not sure what to wear. I asked him if I should wear flats or if I can wear heels, but he won't tell me. So, I'm going to wear heels and take tennis shoes just in case my tootsies start to hurt. Well, that's all for now and I'm missing Grey's Anatomy. So...

Until next time,
Single Girl

Moving on up ...

Hi all, hoochie here ...

Single Girl was having some, shall we say, technical difficulties with her blog (it wouldn't cooperate for me either, stupid thing!), so she asked me for help ...

I suggested she make the move to Blogger, as I've been using it for over a year with no problems. But because Single Girl is a little, ummm, challenged, in the technology department, I have made the move for her.

But, while I am not as technologically challenged as she, I'm not exactly the next Bill Gates either, so I have lumped all of her previous posts from Blogger Team into one, as seen below, instead of figuring out a way to post them separately and show the original dates. Maybe that can't even be done, so perhaps this was the best way to do it anyway.

No matter, the move has been made, so I present to you, the new and improved version of:

Single Girl: The Trials &Tribulations of Being 30 and Single

Enjoy!

-Hoochie

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1-17-07

All of this stupid HTML shit! I'm going to send an email to the bloggerteam support about the comment problem, hopefully they can help me!

Sorry y'all!

Single Girl

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1-16-07

Well, as everyone knows, I went to Austin this weekend to attend the Lone Star Skin Art Revival. It was fun, but I fully expected to see true blue weirdos there. Sadly, there were only a few, and the few that were there weren't even that weird. I took a picture with a couple of guys that had the plugs in their earlobes, one of them looked like he had dinnerplates in his lobe. That kinda freaked me out! Anyway, I have another name to add to my list of code names...

Me - Single Girl
My best friend - Hoochie
My best friend from high school - Slut Puppy
The guy I have known since I was 15 - Dallas
and
The guy I dated my senior year in high school - Escort
(Just want to keep everyone up to date on the names!)

Anyway I went to Austin with Escort and we had a really good time! The convention opened my eyes to how old I really am. I was walking around this convention center and there were all these people covered in tattoos. And I'm not talking about one or two strategically placed so that when you go to work no one will see them, I'm talking tattooed from head to toe! And the only thing that went through my mind was, "How are you people ever going to find a job?" I mean they could probably work for the Jim Rose Circus Side Show or at the local Whole Foods, but that's about it! And when I made this statement to Escort, he said that "skin art" is becoming more socially accepted. I'm sorry, but I disagree with this statement. Yes, I think if you have tattoos that can be covered up, or a girl has something on her ankle that's one thing, BUT if you have so many tattoos and you want one more and the only place you have to put that "one more" is on your face, there are going to be problems on the workfront. Maybe I'm being judgemental, maybe I'm a little old fashioned, but I seriously doubt you will ever see the CEO of a major corporation with a sparrow tattooed on their temple! Anyway, other than that minor disagreement, we had a really good time. Saturday night we went to 6th street and ended up in this bar called the Jackalope. This bar was very cool, it kinda had a Poison Girl kinda feel. On Sunday we drove around Austin and I saw the state capital for the first time. Then we came home to Houston. So all in all, a pretty good weekend.

On another note, I finally posted a picture on my Yahoo Personals account. I think the reason it has taken me so long to post a picture is because I'm a little nervous. I think in the back of my mind there is this little voice saying, "What if no one contacts you because of the way you look." Now believe me, I know that I am not a troll. But, I do realize that I am not a great beauty. I think I'm cute but not beautiful. And please don't think I am wanting everyone to tell me "No Single Girl, you are beautiful!" I am not one to fish for compliments, this is really how I feel about myself. That's why I have the mantra "Beauty fades, cute is forever" Believe me, I know that I am a beautiful person on the inside! (As cheesey as that sounds.) Anyone that knows me knows that I am one of the most loyal friends you will ever have. So, wish me luck! Hopefully, I will be posting about all my "casual dating" soon.

Until next time,
Single Girl

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1-11-07

I lost 3.6 lbs. So if you are keeping track, that brings my grand total to 13.8 lbs. I am soooo excited! I'm still keeping my goal at 20 lbs by my birthday, if I get there before that then woo woo me!

I am really getting excited about this weekend. I am going to Austin and will be attending the Lone Star Tattoo Convention. I'm not sure what to expect, but I'm sure the people watching will be SUPERB!!! I get to actually use the zoom on my camera! Another reason I am excited is because I have not been to Austin since before I was of legal drinking age. That's right kids, I have never partied on 6th street. Well, after this weekend I will be a 6th street virgin no longer. So, most likely, I will have a lot to write about on Monday. Well, that's all for this week. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend! I think mine will be quite entertaining.

Unil next time,
Single Girl

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1-10-07

Well, I haven't posted anything in the past couple of day because there has been nothing to report. But, last night I got a call from a friend of mine (we'll call him Dallas) telling me that he wants to go to Vegas for his birthday in May. I was like "Oh that sounds like fun." Then he said that he would like me to go too and will pay for EVERYTHING! I told him that I could not let him do that and he said that he wanted to. So, it looks like I might me going to Vegas in May. Now I am not a big gambler, the last time I went I won $50 on a slot machine and called it quits because I won, but there is so much to see and do there you don't have to gamble. Here is the tricky part...Dallas has LIKED me since I was 15 years old. According to him, he would marry me tomorrow. I have explained to him that I do not want a relationship right now, and I don't know if a relationship would work between the two of us. We have been friends on and off for 15 years and I would hate for us to try to date and it not work out and then there be a messy breakup then the friendship is over. The reason the friendship has been on and off is because he has wanted to date me and I say no, then he gets mad and we go a couple of years without talking. But, for some reason we always end up friends again. He assures me that if all I can give him is friendship then that's fine with him now. The thing is, I know that if I did end up with him he would do anything for me and treat me like the princess that I am, but I don't see him like that. When I look at him, I see Dallas, my friend that I have known for 15 years. Please don't think that I am going, just to go. We do have a really good time when we hang out and I always look forward to spendig time with him. So, I have a trip to Vegas written down in my day planner. I think we will have a really good time.

Single Girl

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1-7-07

I have an addiction, and I don't think there is a 12-step program for what I am addicted to. I am addicted to As Seen on TV products. Do you know that on Saturday mornings when there is nothing on TV, I can watch infomercials for hours. It's like crack to me. When I go to the drug store, I have to walk down the As Seen on TV aisle and the sad part is, I already have most of the stuff. People laugh at me because when the products come in, I get very happy. I can be having the worst day of my life and if I purchase an As Seen on TV item, it's like a ray of sunshine beams down on me and little cherubs start singing and playing their tiny harps and little bity guitars. And when everyone stops laughing, the first words out of their mouths is "Does it work?" And usually it does. I have the Spin Spa, the Pasta Express, the Bra Baby, the Igea Nail thing, the Turbie Twist, the drier balls, the Finishing Touch, the Hercules Hooks, the Sort and Spin, and the list goes on. But , the latest As Seen on TV product I bought everyone needs. Last weekend I ordered ...the Flip Fold! It came in Friday. I have refolded EVERYTHING. Not only can you fold T-shirts, you can fold pants and towels. When you fold your shirts with the Flip Fold, all of the shirts are folded the exact same size and they are folded like the shirts on display at the store. It is AWESOME!!! So, if you ever find yourself thinking, "I wonder if that REALLY works?" Just email me, 9 times out of 10 I will already have it and I can give you an in-depth review of the product. Well, I have to fold more stuff, so my friends...

Until next time,
Single Girl

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1-3-07

Ok, so I have finally gone from the early 90's to the new millenium...I got a digital camera for Christmas. Gone are the days that I have to go to CVS before a night on the town that I want photographic evidence of. Gone are the days of sporting the rather large black plastic camera with yellow stickers that scream the word FUNSAVER. Now if I want to take a picture all I have to do is pull out my very cute, very fashionable silver camera that says KODAK. Now if I want to take a picture of some freak with face jewelry and tattoos covering every inch of their body I don't have to walk up to them...I can ZOOM!!! The freedom of the zoom is a wonderful thing, I just have to figure out how to work the damn thing. Now, you are probably wondering why the title of this post says I need help. Well my friends, I was going to post some pictures of my redecorated bathroom, but I can't seem to figure out how to put the pictures on the blog. So, hoochie can you help me?

Just so this post is not just a cry for help, I go to my WW meeting tomorrow. Hopefully, I have lost some more weight. I went to a meeting the week before Christmas and I was up to 9.8 lbs., but last week I used the logic that it was the last week of the year and I was going to eat whatever I wanted. I doubt I lost anything, most likely I have put some back on, but it's a new year and I will be victorious. So kiddos, that is all for now.

Until next time...

Single Girl

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1-1-07

Well, hello to anyone who is reading this. I don't really know where to start. I guess I'll start with why I started this blog. When the New Year was approaching, I started to get very sad. Let me give you a little background on me, I am 30 and I have never been married. Don't get me wrong, I'm not sitting in my bedroom eating bon bons every night asking the marriage gods why I haven't been blessed with a husband yet. The reason I am not doing so well with the start of a new year is because this is the first new year I have been single in six years. I broke up with my boyfriend in June and when you have been with someone for six years, the two of you tend to have holiday traditions. And we were no different. At Christmas we would go and pick out a tree, bring the tree home, set up the tree, I would put the lights on the tree, then I would start decorating the tree, he would tell me I was decorating the tree wrong, we would get into a huge argument, he would decorate the tree, I would put the bow on top of the tree, we would make up, and then have a great rest of the night. Now I know you're thinking, "That doesn't sound like much fun, arguing about the Christmas tree" but it was our thing. On New Years eve and New Years day we would spend the entire day watching the Twilight Zone marathon. It sounds a little hokey, but again, it was our thing. So, last night when I was flipping through the channels and got to the SciFi channel and saw the marathon in full swing, I have to admit I got a little misty eyed. But, I am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. So, getting back to why I started this blog...I decided a couple of weeks ago that starting Jan. 1, 2007 I was going to make some changes in my life, and I am going to use this as a way to keep me on track.

I'll list them for you.

1. Become a more organized person.
2. Lose weight
3. Go out on dates.

The first change (notice I am not using the word resolution, because nobody ever sticks to resolutions.) I have already started the organization process. For those of you who know me, you know that I am very unorganized and I'll admit a bit of a slob. Well no more my friends, I went to Barnes and Noble Saturday and bought a book, How Clean is Your House. It actually tells you the correct way to clean. It is actually very interesting, the beginning of the book tells you what kind of cleaning products you should always have on hand. It also sets a schedule of when you should clean certain areas of your houes on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis. Did you know you are supposed to vacuum your mattress twice a month to cut down on dust mites? I have never heard of anyone vacuuming their mattress. Anyway, if any of you are domestically challenged like I am, I highly recommend this book.

The second change, I would like to lose weight. I know this is most people's resolution, and I am no different. But, as God as my witness, I will lose 50 lbs. by next December. I have decided to stick with Weight Watchers, I figure if it can work for Fergie (the Dutchess not the musician) it can work for me. My biggest problem is sticking with a weightloss plan. I also HATE working out! But, if I am going to lose weight, I realize that I have to get my big butt off the couch and actually start moving around. So, when I go to my weekly meetings I am going to report on whatever loss or gain I have for that week. Don't get me wrong, I will not post my actual weight, no self respecting southern woman would ever reveal her actual weight for the world to see, unless I was like 110 lbs, but even if I was bulimic and anorexic at the same time there is no way in hell I would be 110 lbs. I realize that 50 lbs is not going to just vanish from my body, so I've decided to start with small, attainable goals. Here is my first goal, I would like to lose 20 lbs by my birthday in March. Wish me luck on that one!

The third change, go out on dates. I haven't really dated much, I mean I've had boyfriends and I have had the occasional friends with benefits, but I've never really gone out on casual dates. Before I met the ex, I had three standards that I looked for in a man...

1. They had to have a job.
2. They had to have a place to live.
3. They had to have their own car.

I know, they weren't very high standards. I set those standards when I was 24, and for the people who know me they know what kind of losers I dated before the ex. Now that I am single again, I will keep those standards and I would like to add a couple of things...I just don't know what to add. So, I have decided to join Yahoo Personals and actually go out on dates, that way I can evaluate what I like and dislike in a casual dating setting. This third change is probably the main reason I started this blog. If you know me, then you know the few dates I have been on have been unusual, comical, and sometimes just plaing weird. So if the past dictates the future, then you are in for some real reading pleasure.

I will say this, I am not going to use anyone's real name. I have come up with code names...

Me - Single girl
My best friend - Hoochie (It's not mean, it's what we call each other out of love)

And so far that is all I have, because I haven't gone out with anyone yet. When I do, I will add to the code names. So, if you decide to comment on any of the things that I post and you know me, please do not refer to me by my name. I would like to hear your comments, if you have any. I think if you have any comments or advice, it will help me become the person that I would really like to be...if that makes any sense.

So sit back and relax, and I hope you enjoy the Trials and Tribulations of being Single and Thirty.